When it comes to dating and
finances, things are never easy. Keep in mind that men naturally want to provide
and contribute. If it appears that you don’t need anything (or anyone), your
date may feel that there is no place for him in your life. Don’t bring out your
bank statements too quickly and never lead with information about your finances.
You may also want to limit the amount of diamonds and jewelry you wear. That
will help potential suitors focus on you—and not your money.Looking for men within your financial bracket may provide
comfort, but it might limit your options. Try to remain open-minded about what
his financial picture should look like. Men who are in solid, responsible shape
financially and who meet your other criteria may be a great match for you. If
the subject of finances comes up, say that you are fortunate to have yours in
order and leave it at that. In the end, dating is about accepting who you are and what you
have to offer. This attitude will intimidate some and fascinate others. These
are just feelings, and the more comfortable and autonomous you remain, the more
you will tolerate people’s reactions. But first, you must be secure with
yourself and comfortable with your money. Once this happens, other people’s
reactions will have little impact.
Lisa Clampitt, founder of VIP Life, New York
|
